on National Colleges, College Admissions, and College Life
Will Doubt Dictate Your College Decision?
by Judi Bailey, M.Ed., LPCC
Making that final
college decision
is hard, but don't let your self-doubt call the shots. Take this quiz to learn how much your uncertainty influences crucial conclusions like whether to go to school and where.
1. You and your parents are visiting a College you've been considering. Your mom is so pumped about the place that she's pressuring you to enroll today. You...
a. agree right away. It's much easier to go along with mom than stand up to her. Anyway, you don't have a clue about what you want in a school. Maybe (gulp) mom is right.
b. look back and forth between your parents, thinking, Should I enroll? Of course I should. But wait, is this what I really want?
c. tell mom and dad you want some time to process the experience and make a clear, thought-out decision.
2. Thinking about attending college causes you to...
a. question yourself silly. I mean, who am I to claim that I can make these demanding decisions? Why would I think anyone there would like me? How would I ever keep up with the work?
b. become extremely excited about new opportunities to learn about your future Career, make new friends, and shock -- date different people!
c. feel completely lost. It appears that everyone knows what they want but you.
3. Whenever you picture how you'll get along with your peers, you...
a. envision yourself sitting in the dorm alone, again, just like the weekend before and the weekend before that.
b. see yourself comfortably meeting friends in class and in the Cafeteria -- Mr./Ms. Charisma is you!
c. see-saw between two views of you: the introvert and the extrovert. Which one will show up at college?
4. Filling out one College Application seems daunting enough -- forget about three or four of them. You approach the task by...
a. having confidence you'll be able to provide positive and appropriate responses.
b. writing in your name and other identifying information, then putting off the rest until you can get someone to help you.
c. chucking the form until the Deadline passes.
5. Your girl or guy is trying to convince you to go to the local community college instead of the larger university you really want to attend. You...
a. obsess day and night about where to attend. The good news: You can easily see both sides of the issue. The bad: It's left you in limbo.
b. stick with your choice, knowing you gave yourself plenty of time to consider numerous options and their effect on others. You need to do what you need to do.
c. figure your significant other must be right. There's no real reason to go away to school -- after all, many of your friends will be going to the community college as well.
6. Two of your cousins graduated from college with honors and your dad has always wanted you to get as good of grades as they. As a new life on campus draws near, you...
a. seriously doubt whether you have the brains to keep up with the material. Duh! You don't want to embarrass your father your whole life, do you?
b. tell yourself, Oh well -- if I make it, great; if I don't, I can always get a job. Right?
c. figure if your grades got you through high school, they'll get you through college as well.
7. You and your bud are talking about rooming together at the university. Problem? You bet! Your friend is a total neat freak and you're, well, chaotic. You...
a. can't decide whether to room together or not, no matter how many pros and cons you consider.
b. figure that with enough time, your influence will rub off. There are tons of better things to spend time on than cleaning up.
c. poll five of your closest friends to see what they think you should do, and go with the majority vote.
SCORING Total the points that correspond with your answers.
If You Scored... 7 - 11: You Are a Doubting Thomas! Even though you lack faith in your ability to make choices, you're aware of your indecisiveness. Use your insight to track the decisions you make, and pay attention to how well those turn out. Then practice making decisions each and every day -- starting with the small ones. You'll begin to get a sense of power over your life that will feel great.
12 - 16: You Are Lawfully in Limbo. Sometimes you know what you want, and you seize the opportunity to go for it. Other times you don't know what you want and/or can't gather enough energy to go get it. Your starting point is to think about or jot down your wishes and wants as they come.
17 - 21: You Belong to the Movers and Shakers Society! You think enough to plan things out and then you do it! Really, how long do you need to deliberate between going to a BLACK EYED PEAS concert or a lecture on retirement benefits? Be careful that you're not so sure of yourself that you block out input from others. Continue to follow your own path, while opening yourself up to feedback.
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